When Giving Your All Stings

I am the queen of telling my children and others to give their all in everything they do. Our family's motto is to do everything in excellence... not perfection, but excellence. I preach that we all can and should give 100% no matter what the outcome may be. Auburn University taught me to believe in Work, Hard Work and that's exactly what I want my children to do.

Giving 100% or being "all in" as my family calls it can be daunting especially when it is something we really want. The daunting part isn't the actual work; it's the impending result. If I'm honest there are times I give a little less than 100% in hopes it will hurt less if the outcome is not what I hoped for.

Last week I had to practice what I've been preaching. An opportunity presented itself and I really wanted it to come to fruition. I was met with the option of giving 100% or holding back just a little. I committed to giving 100% and putting it all on the line. I studied, practiced, and answered the questions appropriately. Throughout the process I prayed for God to reveal Himself and show me if I was making the right decision. I promised Him I would trust Him with the result. As I got closer to the impending decision the more focused I became, all the while knowing God could say no or not yet.

The outcome did not end as I hoped and the rejection stung because I had worked so hard. But guess what? I didn't linger in those thoughts because I knew it was nothing more I could have done. I had given all I had... my 100%. Everyone affirmed my work ethic and confidence throughout the process. It wasn't that I didn't give 100%; it was God closing that particular door and I'm grateful for that. I believe He must have something better for me in the future.

There will be times when 100% isn't enough to reach (your) goals. That should not stop you from giving your all because there is so much to learn during the process. When you give your all, you have done everything in your power. Then you can rest in God's power and allow Him to open or close the door. 

Friends, are you giving your all, your 100%? Are you studying your hardest? Are you being the best version of yourself? Even when you are scared, fearful, and uncertain of the outcome, God wants your all. Put it all on the altar and watch Him work in your life. Allow growth to occur by being stretched beyond the limits YOU have placed upon yourself. Give your 100% and watch what God can do to you and through you.

In Christ,
Alissa 

A New Creation

Overwhelmed by the presence of God is the only way to describe how I felt on Mother's Day.  Watching and listening to testimonies of three women in my Blueprint Church family reminded me of how awesome God truly is in my life and the life of others. Their testimonies were so personal and authentic yet relatable. Each spoke of their struggles with trying to control their own lives leading to the realization they needed a Savior to come rescue them. After testimonies, the women followed in their next step of obedience which was baptism. What a powerful illustration of Christ's work on our behalf! Christ takes all our filthiness and makes us clean; not only clean but spotless. Sin and shame are replaced with redemption and restoration. The underlying theme of hope for all creation always take me before the throne of grace as a means of gratitude.

I, too, was baptized on Mother's Day- six years ago. As I watched the ladies take that step on Sunday, I reminisced on the journey God took me through. Before that point I was so afraid... of what I can't even tell you. As the time approached to join Pastor Bill in the baptism pool at Cascade Hills Church my heart almost pounded out of my chest. Going down in the cold water and springing back up to life -new life- accompanied by the sound of hundreds of people cheering was more than my emotions could take. The internal workings in my heart collided with the external obedience of baptism. I was a new creation in Christ Jesus and was fully surrendered. Baptism did not save me but it did show others what I already believed in my heart. Hearing my brothers and sisters in Christ cheer with me was icing on the cake.

Similar to the three women and myself, God is calling you to take steps of obedience in your life. It may not be baptism but it could be. Remember, God is more focused on your heart than anything else. He is the only one who can truly change you from the inside out. He can and will make you a new creation if you allow Him. Ask God today for your next step of obedience and follow Him forward.

In Christ,
Alissa


"If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth." Colossians 3:1-2 ESV

"And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful." Colossians 3:15 ESV

Fill Us Up

God, I need you to fill me up. Fill me up with your Spirit. Fill me up with your grace. Fill me up with your confidence. It is easy to think I'm in control of my life. Intellectually I know you are in control but in my day to day interactions I work out of my own power. I'm often exhausted trying to do all things through my own strength. I need you to show me the way. I want your thoughts to be my thoughts. I want your words to be my words. God empty me of myself and give me more of your nature. I need more of you.

If the above paragraph resonates with you then cry out to God. Tell him what you need in this moment. Do you understand that when you cry out to God he actually hears you?  Do you know that He wants a relationship with YOU? Do you realize He is waiting for you to come to Him whether it's the first time or the fiftieth time? Don't interfere with the work He is trying to do in your life. Allow Him to fill you up. 

If you are drowning in your circumstances grab hold of the anchor that is Christ. No matter what you have done or what situation you currently find yourself in, God will bring you out and fill you up. When we receive Christ and walk with Him daily, chains will be broken. Captives will be set free. He will redeem and restore us. Don't go one more day without crying out to God with what you need. He is there and has always been there. He is waiting to fill us up when we surrender to Him.

In Christ, 

Alissa 

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16 NIV

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil, or fade." 1 Peter 1:3-4 NIV

"For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge-- that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God." Ephesians 3:14-19 NIV

Making the Most of Your Time

One of the most valuable things in life is your time. Time is priceless and you can't get it back no matter how hard you try. Prioritizing our time is essential in today's world because everything is vying for our attention - social media, television, career aspirations just to name a few. These things are not necessarily bad but spending too much time on any one of them can rob us of life's most precious moments.

Seeing how fast my children are growing up has caused me to grasp just how fast time goes by. My oldest will be off to college in 2 years. Wait! What? How did that happen? I now see with more clarity the importance of taking it all in and making sure I'm fully living in the moment. As the saying goes, "the days are long but the years are short". Therefore, making the most of my time is vital.

My son Kolbi

Recently a lovely woman at Target gazed at my family as we prepared to check out. Camden was asking me to buy literally every item in the check out aisle while Brennan was playing with the conveyor belt in the woman's personal space. A.T. and I apologized but she quickly reassured us it was no problem. She went on to explain she has three children off in college so she understands our current situation. I suddenly realized why she had been watching my family. It wasn't because my kids were annoying her.  She was actually reminiscing about her motherhood journey. The look on her face helped me understand the reality that they do grow up, move out, and move on with their lives. I know this is the course of life but it happens more quickly than I realized and I needed that reminder.

I'm learning day by day to appreciate the time I have with my loved ones. I want to be sure I'm not missing the current moments worrying about what's to come. I want to establish, build, and cultivate relationships that have a lasting impact. I want to be able to look back on my life and say I truly lived. I want to make the most of my time.

Friends, continue to make the most of your time. Spend time with family and friends. Build relationships. Don't end up with regrets because you didn't prioritizing time for things that truly matter. Remember, time is priceless and you can't get it back so strive to make every moment count.


In Christ,
Alissa



"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV

"Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is." Ephesians 5:15-17

Mic Check... Colombia Edition!

My husband, son, and I were blessed with the opportunity to travel to Bogota, Colombia for a mission trip a couple weeks ago. I didn't know what to expect but was excited for God to reveal himself on the trip. I still don't have adequate words to describe the people, sights, and events that took place. The relationships formed with the locals and our own team was extraordinary. Our team organized a sports camp, helped with a homeless ministry, visited numerous churches, performed concerts, shared our testimonies at a drug rehab facility, and were regular awestruck tourists during our time there.

Beautiful Bogota, Colombia

One of my favorite moments was when our teammate Aaron, better known by his Christian rap stage name Canon, and one of the young men at the drug rehab facility battle rapped. The gentleman confidently went bar for bar with Canon. The mood was electrifying yet God-honoring. I could tell the young man felt his gifting come alive. Hearing them rap in English and Spanish, respectively, is a memory I will treasure forever.

Witnessing that young man, who has been down in the throws of life and currently seeking redemption, rap about God made my heart feel like it was going to burst out of my chest from happiness and joy. God's sovereignty in allowing Canon to be on our trip and be an inspiration to him was and still is amazing to me. It was not planned for the two of them to rap together. I believe the spontaneity of the moment is probably what made it even more special. I absolutely love how God shows himself in so many different ways and different circumstances.

Outside Drug Rehab Facility

Building relationships with people and helping them find ways to honor God with their lives is my passion. I love seeing people come to the realization that the unique way God made them is enough for God. This moment exemplified perfectly how God can use our unique gifts to bring glory to Him even when it's outside of the norm. It aches my heart when people look down on things outside the norm of western Christianity. Some may even go so far as to demean someone's gift. There are diverse audiences who need something different - something outside the norm. As long as the gospel is central and God is the object of our affection I believe it will be God-glorifying.

Friends, your gift may not look like other people's gift. Your gift may not attract everyone but for the audience God has for you I say go for it with the best of your ability. God wants to use you for His kingdom and for His glory. Sometimes it may take going outside the norm to reach people in your path. Don't be afraid to take risks and use your God-given gifts.

In Christ,
Alissa

Loving Others Well

Watching the elementary age students in my sons’ school cafeteria on Friday was inspiring. The children were so excited not because of lunch but because of the two gentlemen sitting at the end of the table before they reached the serving line. I witnessed each child, no matter their race or gender, wait in anticipation of reaching the gentlemen. The children and gentlemen exchanged either a high five, fist bump, or their favorite handshake. It was so sweet seeing the children wait in line to be acknowledged with a loving embrace. They had smiles on their faces and appeared to honestly be in the moment.

One would think the gentlemen were special guests or possibly the principal/leadership of the school. Actually, they were the custodians/janitors at the school. I’ve visited the cafeteria on numerous occasions during both of my sons’ lunch periods and noticed the same loving gestures. I can describe those moments in two words: pure joy.

You see many people may look down on these gentlemen because they think the jobs are not important enough or high enough on the success ladder. Children, however, are great at figuring out the authenticity of a person. The children adore these men and quite honestly the men adore them as well. They didn't care about the position the men held. They realize the men care about them and that's all that matters.

Growing up my mom's profession was a janitor/custodian as well. She cleaned her elementary school with excellence. She took pride in making sure the school was in the best shape it could be. The children loved her and still remember her even 20-30 something years later. Mrs. Linda, as they called her, holds a special place in many of the children's hearts until this day. People still tell me stories they remember about my mom and what she did for them while they attended her school. I believe she made an impact on those children and the gentlemen at my sons' school will continue to make an impact on their children as well.

Maybe all of us can learn from these children and not assign dignity or worth to a human being based on WHAT they do. Instead we should love others because of WHO they are. We need to treat everyone with respect because they are worthy of respect. God assigned dignity and worth to all His creation. How dare we as the created try to change what the Creator set in motion. Let's not think too highly of ourselves believing we are better than others. Truly, it doesn't matter your job position as long as you are positioned in right standing with Christ and reflecting His glory in all you do. 

Look to the gentlemen and my mother as an example of loving others well. Strive to make an impact in someone's life no matter our position or theirs. People are looking for authenticity and compassion. Give it to them freely because you know they are worthy of the investment. 

In Christ,

Alissa

"Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men." Colossians 3:23 HCSB

"For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you." Romans 12:3 NIV

He's Intentional, Are We?

One of my favorite songs right now is Intentional by Travis Greene. By definition, intentional means "done on purpose; deliberate". The song repeats "all things are working for my good, cause He's intentional, never failing". God is never failing and has worked all things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. God yearns for all His creation to become His children. He wants us to believe in His son Jesus Christ who died for our sins and rose again to be with Him. This is the biggest gift God offers us, but it doesn't stop there. He is intentional in our daily lives and working on our behalf for His glory. We don't have to worry or fear our circumstances because God is with us through the Holy Spirit living in us. God's intentionality should give us peace to keep going.

On this Good Friday I ask you to reflect on how God's intentionality has changed your life. Reflect on personal, real life examples of God's working on your behalf. Realize that because of Him sending His son you have hope of a future with Him. Thank Him you do not have to be alone on this journey because you have the Holy Spirit inside you.

Let's take it another step. Are we following God's lead with being intentional to other people in our lives? Do we show others the love and hope we find in Christ? Intentionality can be hard and usually takes us out of our comfort zones. In order to be intentional we need to build relationships not just connections. To me, connections can be surface level only. True relationships require a level of intentionality and have the ability to make you vulnerable.

Think about the people God has put in your life. How can you be intentional about sharing the hope that you have? What relationships can you grow for the glory of God? Find where God is already working and join in. God wants us to be intentional with His message. Will you?

In Christ,
Alissa

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 NIV

"But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect." 1 Peter 3:15 NIV 

On The Other Side of Comfort

Oh the joys of our comfort zone! It's where we feel most content and at ease. It's where we dwell and pretty much know what to expect. Comfort zones aren't perfect but they are familiar. The familiarity urges us to stay in that place. We know we can do better but are scared to take a risk on a new adventure. Ultimately comfort zones keep us stagnant.

I had the opportunity to speak at the R.E.A.L - Raising Extraordinarily Amazing Ladies Forum at New Manchester High School last Wednesday. If I had not stepped outside my comfort zone by contacting the speaker coordinator the blessing from that experience would not have been realized. Any other time I probably would have waited and missed out on the opportunity. I didn't know if I would be selected but I knew I had to at least reach out.

The event was a clear answer to my quiet time with God. I had no idea how many people would attend until I showed up. Imagine my surprise when the entire cafeteria was packed with approximately 300 women and girls. It was definitely a God honoring time that uplifted, inspired, and empowered everyone in attendance including me. I'm continually grateful for that opportunity.

We all have to step outside our comfort zones and follow God in obedience based on what He tells us to do. Even if you do not see the big picture follow Him in the one step He has shown you so far. Do your part and you will be pleasantly surprised how the details unfold without you having to "take things into your own hands". Instead, allow His hand to lead you.

I'm currently learning to take risks for the cause of Christ. I hope you do the same. Trust and believe He is with you every step of the way. Put feet to your faith which requires you to step outside your comfort zone, take risks, and work hard. The most amazing things happen on the other side of comfort. God will meet you there and blow your mind based on your obedience.

We can change the world according to our obedience. Now join me on the other side of comfort!

In Christ,
Alissa

R.E.A.L. Forum on March 2, 2016

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

We're Here to IMPACT

Who made a significant impact in your life? Upon reflection your mind is probably flooded with vivid memories of specific individuals. Maybe it was a teacher who believed in you or a parent who was always there when you needed it most. Possibly it was a coach or mentor who spent time with you showing you the best way to reach your goals. Whatever the situation these individuals impacted you in ways that continue to bring a smile to your face. Perhaps their good deeds changed the trajectory of your life. 

Similar to those who have impacted us, we can impact others. We are equipped by God with certain gifts and talents. Each of us has certain experiences that have shaped us. Why not use these gifts, talents, and experiences to impact others? One of the best gifts you can give is your time. Whether that's lending a listening ear, teaching a craft or skill, or encouraging a friend we should find a way to impact those around us. The motive is not to get a pat on the back but to give back a portion of what has been given to us. 

Based on my gifts, talents, and experiences I continually look for ways to impact individuals who are confused, hurting, and feel like hope is dwindling. I currently mentor at a local pregnancy center and middle school. I also seek out opportunities to speak life into what seems like dead situations. How could I not tell people about the Savior of the world who provides hope to the hopeless? My methods may change as time goes on but my mission will always be to tell others about Christ and make an impact for Him. I may never reach the masses with my words and deeds but I am determined to make an impact on those who are in my path. 

Through God's providence we are alive at this moment for such a time as this. I truly believe we are not here to impress but to impact. How will you use your life to make an impact? What is something God has impressed upon your heart to do? How can your gifts be used in a God honoring way? 

However the Lord has gifted you use it for His glory. You never know how you may positively affect a person's life. I remember several individuals whose impact changed the trajectory of my life and I am forever grateful. Reflect on those who made an impact in your life. Now GO and make an IMPACT in someone else's life for the kingdom for God.

In Christ,

Alissa

Community in the Midst of Storms

Overwhelmed, tired, hurt, lonely... Do any of these words describe you? Have they described you in the past? Many of our friends and family feel as if they are drowning. Drowning from the ever present storms of this life. If we take the time to truly look around and observe our loved ones we will see the signs of an overwhelmed, tired, hurt, or lonely individual. I've been that person on several occasions. Therefore, I can't look around and see the devastation without feeling the burden to be there and help.

Life is hard. Sometimes very, very hard. As the saying goes, either you just came out of a storm, currently in a storm, or about to head into a storm. Thank God He never intended for us to do life on our own. That's why the Holy Spirit indwells in us and we have brothers and sisters in Christ to walk alongside us. We were made for relationship and community.

My heart's cry is to see brothers and sisters in Christ unified. We need to help others see the importance and desperate need for Christ. Not only do we need Christ but we also need one another. People view needing others as a weakness but I strongly disagree. Being in community with others is a strength. We are better people when we are in community with others. It shows us life is not all about us. We get to have a front row seat at Christ working in other peoples' lives which is a constant reminder that He is ever faithful.

Will there be moments when we feel overwhelmed, tired, hurt, or lonely? Probably so. Will we have storms in our lives? The Bible says yes. This is why I am thankful that God has given me a community of brothers and sisters who love me and are there for me. I am even more thankful for my relationship with Christ who is my constant friend. When I think about all God has done in my life I can't bottle up my emotions and remain silent. All the storms I thought would have taken me out have prepared and equipped me to be the person I am today. Therefore, I continually seek relationships with people for the mutual edification of Christ.

God make us Your example. Show us people we can impact. Allow us to be a light in the world. There are days when we fall short but continue to convict us, pick us up, and show us the way. Help us see the need for our brothers and sisters in Christ. Help us realize we are family and teach us what that truly means. Help us deepen our relationships so we are burdened for our sisters and brothers.

Are you in a consistent relationship with your brothers and sisters in Christ? Do you have people you can call on when the storms of life are raging? Remember that God created us for community with Him and one another.

In Christ,
Alissa

"May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God." Romans 15:5-7 (ESV)

"If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it." 1 Corinthians 12:26-27 (ESV)

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 (ESV)

"For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers." Romans 8:29 (ESV)

Being Faithful in Goal Setting

It's officially mid-January 2016 and I know many of us are in the thick of keeping up with our New Year's Resolutions/Goals for 2016. For me, the hard part is not setting the goals but creating margin in my life to fulfill the goals. I like to fill my schedule with numerous things so I feel productive. However, all activity is not productivity.

God gave me two words for 2016... Alignment and Action. I must be in alignment with what He created me to do and I must move into action based on that alignment. I've had to strategically look at everything I am doing and evaluate whether it lines up with the things I believe God is calling me to do in this season of life. If it is not in alignment with the purpose God has on my life then it has to go.

It is difficult to realize that some of the things I am doing are good things but not God things for me. Just this week I had to cut out two good things I am involved with in order to go to the next level with the God things. It's hard to let them go. I liked those things. I liked the people associated with those things. However, I knew that it was taking up valuable time and I couldn't do it all. Those good things were actually time thieves.

There is no excuse for me, or you, not to give 100% on our God things. Giving 100% is oftentimes scary because what if our "all in" is not enough to make us to feel successful. We cannot worry about the outcome. We just have to do our part and allow God to do the rest. God is faithful to do what He said He would do. We have to be faithful to stay focused on the mission/goal God has given us. Do not look to the left or to the right. Look straight ahead and keep plowing. Step by step we will begin to see the fruits of our labor and realize we are where we were meant to be. Obedience is the key to success in God's eyes. God will bless our obedience. We have to rest in Him and humbly follow His directions.

If you do not know what God has called you to do in this season, pray for Him to give you a revelation. Get quiet before God and seek Him wholeheartedly. You are perfectly equipped for what He has for you. More than likely He will only give you a few steps at a time but that is okay. Do your part and watch God work. It is not about our abilities. It's about God's ability, and He is able to do exceedingly, abundantly, above anything we can ask or think.

In Christ,
Alissa


"Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations." Deuteronomy 7:9 (ESV)

"God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it?" Numbers 23:19 (ESV)

"He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it." 1 Thessalonians 5:24 (ESV)

"And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ." Philippians 1:6 (ESV)

Daddy is Here

Daddy is here... These three words may conjure up different emotions for different people. However, for my 7 year old Brennan it gives him a peace and comfort that most people hope and wish they had. Brennan loves his dad beyond words and can't wait for him to get home each day. He runs with open arms as soon as the door opens. I love witnessing their connection because I know that is not the reality for many children and their fathers. It makes me so happy to see the genuine love between the two of them. 

Earlier this week Brennan went to the dentist to get two fillings for his cavities. He knew about the upcoming procedure for a few weeks but grew anxious as the day approached. The morning of the procedure I went into his bedroom to wake him up. His first words were "I hate this day". I reassured him that he would be fine and that daddy would be right there with him. I explained that many other kids had been through what he was about to do. They were ok and he would be as well. The words appeared to calm him, and he said he was ready to be brave. I knew it was more than the mere words I spoke to him that calmed his fears. It was the reassurance, presence, and relationship that accompanied the words that pushed him past his fears and gave him strength. He knew his daddy would be there with him and that was just what he needed. He trusted and believed his daddy would not put him in harm's way. He knew even if it hurt his daddy would be there to comfort him.

Brennan's relationship with his daddy helped him gain courage that morning to walk into the dentist office like a big boy. When he met me back in the waiting area he was excited that it wasn't that bad and told me he was "super brave". I don't know how the dentist appointment would have gone if my husband was not there. Honestly I'm glad I didn't have to find out. All I know is that Brennan had a great experience and a vital reason for that is his daddy was right there with him in the room.

God spoke to me that morning as I was reassuring Brennan. The words "Daddy is here" echoed in my mind. God reminded me that He is the Ultimate Daddy and is here for His children always and forever. Daddy is here when I don't feel brave and want to give up. Daddy is here when fear comes in like a flood and washes over me. Daddy is here when I feel alone and isolated. Daddy is here when the world seems against me. Daddy is here you fill in the blank. The truth is Daddy is always here in any and all of life's circumstances even when we don't realize it. 

Don't ever forget that Daddy is here for you. He wants to give you peace and comfort. He wants us to be brave and courageous. He also wants an authentic connection and the type of relationship where you yearn to see Him each day. He wants to walk with you in every situation no matter how big or small it seems. 

Do you truly believe that Daddy is here? Do you feel His presence in your daily life? If not, pray for God to overwhelm you with His presence today. Be open with Him about your feelings because an authentic relationship begins with honesty and trust. Show God today that you want an intimate relationship where you know that He is here. If we are honest with each other, we all want to know Daddy is here for us unconditionally and indefinitely. 

I pray that you will get to a point where you, like Brennan, can find rest in the fact that Daddy is here!

In Christ,

Alissa 

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9 (ESV)

"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10 (ESV)

"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you." Deuteronomy 31:6 (ESV)

Forever Thankful

This Thanksgiving I am so thankful for what God has done in and through my family. We have been "blessed" with material items but the most important and precious gift was my son Brennan trusting Jesus as his Lord and Savior. I am ecstatic that he came to this point in his life. I never wanted to rush him into this decision. I knew he was curious but he is curious about everything in life. That's just Brennan.

It was a normal Sunday morning in our household on November 1st. Brennan was taking a bath in my bathtub, and I was hurriedly trying to figure out what to wear. Brennan looked at me and asked why my lips were still red. I reminded him that I had red lipstick on the previous night for Halloween and it wouldn't come off. I normally don't wear lipstick but Brennan insisted on me wearing red lipstick to complete our family's Halloween costume: the Avengers. I was Black Widow!

The Neal Family Presents:

The Avengers: Captain America, Incredible Hulk, Thor, and Black Widow

I was a little frustrated the lipstick wouldn't come off. Brennan's exact words were "you should be happy your lips are red, they are like the blood of Jesus". I was taken aback and almost let the comment slide but I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me to ask him more questions. I allowed him to "teach" me what he already understood about Jesus, the Cross, and sin.

At this point, I knew A.T. (my husband) needed to be included in the conversation. A.T. came in and Brennan explained to him our previous conversation. A.T. then led Brennan in a prayer as we all hugged each other. The realization that Brennan was no longer only my son but also my brother in Christ made me cry and extremely thankful.

Brennan is so excited about his journey. He loves reading his bible and devotional. He is hungry to know more. I can't believe that a silly Halloween costume led to a conversation and my son's conversion. God can and will use anything for His glory and part of His will!

I am thankful to my missional community and Hello World children's ministry at Blueprint Church as well as countless family members and friends for teaching Brennan about Christ. I am thankful for God's grace and mercy to pursue Brennan. A couple nights ago Brennan prayed that one day he will become a pastor. I don't know if that's God's will for his life, but we are committed to teaching him God's Word for the rest of his life.

Brennan by the cross at Blueprint Church with his new devotional 

My prayer as Thanksgiving approaches is that we, as believers, have the same hunger and thirst for God's Word that Brennan has at this moment. We must seek God with everything in us. We must be "all in". We should be forever thankful that God pursues us and wants us to be a part of His family.

Happy Thanksgiving Friends!

Run Till I Finish

"The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest." Matthew 9:37-38 (ESV)

A fire has been placed in me and I pray it does not get extinguished any time soon. I see the urgency of the message of hope that is found in Christ. I must use the gifts and talents God assigned me to reflect glory back to Him. I've sat around too long trying to ensure everything will be perfect. I wait for the perfect moment, perfect opportunity, or perfect timing. Well I've learned, just as I hope you have, there will never be a perfect moment to follow your dreams and pursue your passions.

I discussed with a friend the other day "if you aren't going to do what God tells you to do, what is the point of all the praying and waiting for an answer?". As soon as the words left my mouth, the enormity of the statement hit me like a ton of bricks. I am in a habit of praying and asking God to give me eyes to see and ears to hear. However when God provides an answer I tend to get fearful and make excuses for why I shouldn't do what He said.

Friends, I don't want to be that way anymore. I declare I will not be that way anymore. My pastor Dhati Lewis preached about the harvest being plentiful but the laborers are few. The next verse says to pray to the Lord to send out laborers into his harvest. "Send out" in that context is the Greek word ekballo which means "to force out". I am glad God loves me so much that he has ekballo-ed me from my comfort zone and unnecessary fear. He has shown me the harvest, and I intend to make an impact in His name.

I vow to God that I will run till I finish. I will continue to encourage others while proclaiming the gospel. I will continue to show people who they are in Christ. I will continue to tell my story of redemption without being ashamed. I will continue to live like tomorrow isn't promised (because it's not).

I am determined to run my race well. Will you join me on the track? We may have to jog or even walk at times but that's ok because God is with us every step of the journey. Let's go friends! We don't have any time to waste!

"Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God." Hebrews 12:1-2 (ESV)

"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:7 (ESV)

Worth Fighting For

"For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places." Ephesians 6:12 (ESV)

Tears form in the corner of my eyes as I continue to hear story after story of young women wanting and attempting to take their own life. The devil has waged a war in my dear sisters' minds that results in such negative thinking the best solution appears to be suicide. He has fooled them into believing their lives are not worth fighting for, their dreams are not worth fighting for, their well being is not worth fighting for. My heart aches when I see how far from the truth the enemy has led my beautiful sisters. Women tend to go into isolation or "keep up appearances" with the false assumption they are the only ones dealing with the brokenness of this world. The devil believes he has them where he wants them...that he has won.

Dear sisters, I want you to know God has already defeated the devil. The devil's schemes do not have to rule you. You are worthy, worthy of life and worthy of grace. I want to talk and walk with you down the road to redemption. I love you and am willing to get in the ring and fight with you however long it takes. I know we have other sisters who will fight and pray just as hard if only they knew the situation.

My prayer is that women bind together to stand firm against the devil's schemes. We need to be intentional about forming relationships and being vulnerable with our sisters. We have to stand in the gap for each other.  I want to see a generation of women and girls impacted by the power of God. I want this generation to get in the ring and fight not only for ourselves but for our sisters. I want this generation of women to allow our pasts to propel us forward to impact others. I want people to look at this generation of women and see true community and true sisterhood. It starts with me and it starts with you because we are WORTH FIGHTING FOR!

To the Single Mother on Father's Day

Single Mother,

I know this is a touchy subject and there are many people on both sides of the fence: whether to praise single mothers on Father’s Day or to bash single mothers who dare to call themselves fathers. Many emotions including hurt, anger, disappointment, and disgust can cloud our decision on the best possible reaction to this conundrum. My prayer is that you come with an open heart as you read this post and that you seek God in the midst of your single motherhood.

I became a single mom at the age of 15. My child’s father came around sporadically. There were many times I wished he wouldn’t come at all because I hated to see disappointment on my baby’s face. Over the years Father’s Day did not exist for him because he simply wasn’t there. As I grew up I began resenting my child’s father and only saw his faults and none of my own. However, I vowed to never say anything bad about him in the presence of my child. Nor did I take away his right to see our child when he wanted to do so.

My motto was I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T and I would sing that song as loudly as I could early on in single motherhood. (Who remembers that song?! Do you know what I mean J) However, I’ve learned over the years that I was not a FATHER and never could be. My son needed and still needs positive male role models in his life. Your children are no different. Fatherlessness is an epidemic. We have to seek godly men who can and are willing to stand in the gap for our children. We need to go back to the “village” mentality to make it in this ever-changing world.

Single mothers, I know it’s hard. I know sometimes it feels like you have to do everything on your own. I know about the nights crying yourself to sleep because you don’t know how you and your child are going to make it. I know there are times when you just want to be angry and tell the world about it. But I also know a Savior who is listening patiently and who wants to comfort you in your times of need. I know a Savior that wants to take on your burdens. I know a Savior who will heal you from the inside out. I know a Savior who redeems. 

God loves you and your child, dear single mother. But do you know who else God loves? He loves your child’s father. He loves him so much that He gave His one and only son Jesus for him. This powerful truth has the capability to radically change the way you view your child’s father. View him through the lens of our Heavenly Father. If you can allow the walls to come down that you’ve built to “protect” yourself, God has the ability to build you up from a firm foundation. He has done it for me and I know He will do it for you.

So, this weekend let’s vow to honor and celebrate the men in you and your children’s lives that are making a difference. Honor the good men that spend time with your children even though they are not biologically related to them. After that, I want you to take it a step further. Let’s vow to pray for your child’s absent father. Pray that they grow, mature, and come to know the Lord. Knowing the Lord and living for Him will inevitably change their heart. A changed heart transforms lives. Single mothers, will you take a pledge to uphold these vows? Will you begin to let go of the hurt, anger, disappointment, and disgust? I promise it brings such an indescribable peace to let go and let God have His way.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I pray these words speak into your heart and help you be the best MOTHER you can be through Christ.

Side note: My child’s father joined my family and I for a church service recently. Praise God! We still don’t have a perfect relationship but with God’s help our relationship will honor God and help our son to see what it means to live like Christ. Hallelujah! God is good!

Until next time!

In Christ,

Alissa

WAKE UP!

Just a heads up this blog post cuts straight to the point of the matter. I'm sure each of you will be convicted as I have been. Stick with it and pray that God opens your eyes and your heart so that you can grow in Him throughout this process. 

It drives me up the wall how women treat each other, inside and outside the church. We may not overtly be rude to someone but even in our subtleness the point is evident. If you don't look like us, act like us, or like what we like, then you might as well not attempt to be in community with us. You can attend an event but don't think you are a part of my circle. This is sad on so many levels especially since one of the Great Commandments is to love others.

But you may say wait a minute Alissa I am never rude or discriminate against other women. I'm always nice and cordial. I smile from across the room and occasionally ask people how their day is going. Girlfriend allow me to let you in on something. Saying hello and being "nice" is not what loving others is about. Love is an action and many times requires sacrifice. Further, we are supposed to be "sisters" in Christ. It's been my experience that we treat other women more like distant cousins at a family reunion that we wish we didn't have to attend. 

Being a sister in Christ means reaching out to women who may not be the "type" of women you normally deal with. Being a sister in Christ means getting out of your clique and embracing another woman who may not have any other friends. Being a sister in Christ means praying for opportunities to reach women no one else wants to reach. Being a sister in Christ means being willing and available for God to use you in the life of a woman at her time of need even when it's not convenient.

Wake up! Many times women are better at tearing each other down than lifting each other up. So many walls have been built up in order to keep us from getting hurt that we don't understand we are isolating ourselves from what God really wants from us. How in the world are we going to fulfill the command to love others if we don't even like each other?! God wants us to be in community. In doing so we have to get out of our comfort zones. 

Wake up! We have a generation of young women looking up to us. We have to show them how to encourage one another. They need to see the difference in how Christian women are to act. No one else is going to show them how the sisterhood is supposed to be. We have to wake up and take our job seriously. 

God is calling forth women who want to be evidence of what being a sister in Christ is all about. You don't want to sleep on this movement of God. WAKE UP!!!

The following are only a few Scriptures pointing us to wake up, encourage one another and love one another as God has instructed.

"Wake up, sleeper, rise from the dead, and God will shine on you" Ephesians 5:14

"For you were once darkness, but now you are the light in the Lord. Walk as children of light- for the fruit of the light results in all goodness, righteousness, and truth- discerning what is pleasing to the Lord. Ephesians 5:8-10

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up as you are already doing" 1 Thessalonians  5:11

"By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another" John 13:35

"Dear friends, let us love one another, because love is from God, and everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God" 1 John 4:7

Based on Scripture and my personal stance on the subject I want to offer some practical ways to become the type of women who love others and bring God glory through their relationships:

1. Stop sizing up women before you even have a chance to say hello. 
2. Be open to get to know women you normally wouldn't hang around. 
3. Pray for women who come to your mind. 
4. Encourage women consistently. 
5. Allow God to stir your heart and follow Him in obedience. 

If you start by doing these things God will grow you in more ways than you will ever imagine. It may be hard because the world tells us "no new friends" is cool and that there is such a thing as "having enough friends". However, God expects more from His daughters. He calls us to be salt and light. Show others that God sits on the throne of your life. 

There are so many women dealing with unimaginable hurts who need encouraging words and for sisters in Christ to come alongside them. Let's resolve to love one another through the great and difficult times of life. Be the woman of God He has called you to be. Not because I said so but because God gets all the glory when we act according to His will. 

If God has awakened you by reading this post don't ignore it. Stay in Scripture. Choose to go against the culture. Make a change. It is never too late to get back on track.  Lets keep each other accountable, encouraged, and lifted up in prayer. Also, please forward this to other women you know!  This is not about me. This is about all of us growing in Christ. 

In Christ,
Alissa

Trying to Connect

My husband recently bought me a new hot pink bluetooth device for me to wear around my neck. I love it not only because of its color (I love pink!) but also because it helps distract me from cooking and cleaning. I can listen to my music or talk to a close friend while still being productive.  It's truly a win-win solution for my daily to do list. Many times I forget I have it on while walking around the house or playing with my kids. To work properly my phone has to be close enough to pick up the bluetooth signal. Once I get out of range the headset reminds me with the message "trying to connect". Only then do I remember I need to go closer to the source for my device to work in its intended function.

God used this illustration in a mighty way to reveal a bigger truth to me. He allowed me to see He has been saying the same thing to me lately. In my spirit I heard Him say, "Alissa, I'm trying to connect with you". That moment of clarity reminded me in order to truly connect with God I have to be close to Him. He wants an intimate relationship that only comes through connectedness.

If I polled the people reading this blog I'm pretty sure the majority would say they want to know and connect with God more. So the question becomes how can we know God more? The answer is easy. Intentionally stay in His word, seek His face, and talk to Him constantly. He is not hiding from us. We are the ones who are walking further and further away without even realizing it. He is calling out to us "trying to connect" but are we listening?

Reclaim your relationship with God. Connect with Him on a deeper level. Ultimately allow Him to work in your life and fulfill the plans He has for you.

Thank you for reading this post. Please share with your friends who may need to hear this message.

In Christ,
Alissa

When God Says No

For the past few years I've yearned for a place my family could call "home". After years of moving around to different states we felt ready to put down roots and become homeowners for the second time. Documenting the building process through frequent visits and an ever-growing photo album was a fun adventure. The home quickly became my fourth baby over the summer months. Slight uneasiness crept in as the building process neared the end. I dismissed it as nerves and continued to move forward. 

A.T. and I couldn't get over the Holy Spirit's constant nudging in our hearts on the DAY of closing. Many issues in the home had not been resolved and we began to feel rushed. The lack of peace hit me like a ton of bricks. In the midst of the final walk through we took a moment to talk in private. After all the planning, trips with the kids to visit "our new home", and the loaded U-Haul truck with all our belongings staring at us from the road, we knew we were supposed to walk away. Walk away... I couldn't believe it. God clearly told both of us no.

Even though we had just walked away from the dream we had fixated on for months, we had an undeniable peace. We didn't know how everything would end up but we knew God had a plan. The peace we experienced had nothing to do with us but everything to do with God's hand on us that day. For whatever reason we weren't supposed to move into that house. We had to trust and believe that God's way was better than our own. 

What happens when God tells you no? Do you continue to ask questions? Do you beg, plead and try to explain why your way is better? Do you continue on your own path hoping God will change His mind? Or, do you trust in God's plan? Isaiah 55:8-9 states, "for my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways...For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." 




Do you feel God is trying to get your attention? Has He told you no to something? Maybe it is a new job that you've worked hard at getting only to realize it is not God's plan for you. It could be a relationship you've invested years into only to realize the love is not being reciprocated or the person is unequally yoked. I know it's hard to step away when you've invested so much time and energy. You want it to work out so bad you can taste it. However, if God has told you no please take heed to it and don't dismiss the Spirit's promptings. God is faithful. His way is always better than ours and He will see you through. Have faith in His way, plan and purpose for your life! 

In Christ,

Alissa 

The following video is "Give Me Faith" by Elevation Worship. This is one of my favorite songs.